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Shhtht4After we each helped our own parents through transitions to senior housing we realized how difficult...and lonely...the process can be. It was way too hard and took way too much time to find and pull together all the resources needed for a smooth transition. We came together with a shared vision to make it easier for others than it was for our parents. With just one call we can take of it all, from downsizing & decluttering to estates sales & donations to packing & moving to preparing the home for sale to successfully selling the home.

  • Jeri Pischke, TenderHeartTransitions.com - 612-804-1755 - Email
  • Sharlene Hensrud, HomesMSP.com - 612-419-0560 - Email

Sharlene Hensrud on October 16, 2008 | Permalink | Comments (2)

Selling Your Parent's Home

It is hard enough selling your own home and orchestrating a move. It can be even more difficult when it is your parent's home, whether it be an estate or a move to different housing...their home may be filled memories as well as loaded with years and years of 'stuff'!

Srstuff1 Often the 'stuff' is what prevents seniors from moving. Even more difficult than parting with it, they don't know what they will do with it...and they can't imagine where to begin. Some people selling their parent's home have told me that a gift they plan to give their children is downsizing and dealing with their own 'stuff' while they still can...so their children don't have to deal with it later.

A good way to start is to decide what is going with your parents to their new home if they are moving. If at all possible, it is usually easiest on the seniors to move before selling their home. That way they can get settled into their new home first, then work can proceed on getting their old home ready to show and sell. Showing the home to prospective buyers can be very disruptive for anyone...even more so for seniors...and dealing with their stuff while they are still living there can sometimes be almost insurmountable.

Next distribute desired items to family members and friends...items may be of sentimental or monetary value. I remember when sorting through my husband's parent's estate one of the items the three brothers drew straws for was the family cookie jar! Also recognize that some items may have value beyond what you might think...and Researching Valuables Can Pay Off.

What you have left is what is available for an estate sale, such as with Ebenezer Hands and Hearts or Birkeland & Associates, donations and the dumpster.

This can all be a huge task, and even bigger if family members are scattered in different parts of the country. Srstuff2 Most people need help at some point in the process, whether it be from family and friends or professionals.

The National Association of Senior Move Managers (NASMM)  is a not-for-profit, professional association of organizations dedicated to assisting older adults and families with the physical and emotional demands of downsizing, relocating, or modifying their homes. They can help you find a professional move manager in your area to help with the whole process...such as Jeri Pischke of Tender Heart Transitions that I work with regularly and who is a guest author on this blog.

Once the home is cleaned out the next step is preparing it for sale. Consult with your Realtor about required inspections and disclosures in your area, and also about recommendations on what should be done to get it sold. It used to often make sense to just clean it up and sell it with no further work.

In today's market it is usually a good idea to do some fixups and staging...not necessarily to get a higher price, but just to get it sold! With over 80% of buyers wanting a home they can just move into and over 90% of buyers searching online, the staging can be worth it just for online photos. It can make the difference in whether buyers even come to see your property or pass it by for other better looking choices.

Selling from a distance has become easier in our electronic era...even some signatures can now be executed online. What still requires an original signature, however, is the deed transfer. If the seller is not available and it is signed by a personal representative an original Power of Attorney document with the raised seal must be provided to submit with the deed for recording in Minnesota...it will not be returned.

Sharlene Hensrud, RE/MAX Results - Email - Certified 55+ Senior Real Estate Advisor

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Sharlene Hensrud on June 27, 2009 | Permalink | Comments (1) | TrackBack (0)

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Can I afford to move? What is my home worth?

When seniors think about moving there are usually two issues that immediately come to mind...

  • How much can I sell my home for...can I afford to sell and move even if I wanted to?
  • If I move, what will I do with all my stuff?

They are both very valid concerns and precisely the place to start. Jeri can help you with dealing with your stuff and getting your home ready to sell if you decide to go that route...I'll leave that to her. I can help you with estimating what your home might sell for in this market and figuring out whether or not it makes sense to sell and move at this time.

We offer a free consultation to meet with you and discuss your options, including a comparative market analysis of what has been selling in your area and an estimated net sheet of how much you can expect to get after expenses at closing. We also regularly send information via email if that works for you...especially useful if decision makers and family members are scattered...it's often the most efficient form of communication. 

Don't worry, we won't advise you to sell if it doesn't seem like the right move for you at this time...everyone's situation is different. But if you do decide to sell, preparing your home for sale and marketing it are key to selling your home. Even in today's troubled market, properties that we have been fixing/staging and listing have been selling in less than 60 days...way below the current average market time of 157 days. In fact, we even had multiple offers on a couple homes we sold in the last 6 months!

See these related posts on our daily sister blog at www.HomesMSPblog.com...

  • The Three Most Important Things in Marketing Your Home
  • Multiple offers? In this market?
  • Selling your home? Avoid the #1 buyer turnoff
  • Move-in condition or 'fixer-upper'?
  • Selling or Buying a Home from a Distance

Sharlene Hensrud, 55+ Certified Senior Real Estate Advisor - 612-419-0560 - shensrud@homesmsp.com - HomesMSP.com

Sharlene Hensrud on March 18, 2009 in Preparing and Selling Your Home | Permalink | Comments (1) | TrackBack (0)

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Help Till It Hurts

I wanted to share a story about the job we had this week.  I write this because we ended up doing a lot more for someone than what our "role" is supposed to be.  While it was emotionally draining, it felt good.  I'm not sharing this to get any credit for our efforts.....I share this because and it was a (humble) reminder that people need help and that's why we're on this Earth.

We received a call from an Atlanta Attorney to do an "unpack" for a Senior who was moving to Chanhassen from Oregon.  No problem, I said.  Well......

We were told he had 14 small boxes to put away and that he got here one week before he could get in to his Apartment.  Turns out he's a disabled fireman (bad lungs) from L.A.  He's 73.  He was staying at a hotel.  He checked in and 20 minutes later ended up at HCMC for pneumonia.  They told me he was being discharged last Friday.

 

So we show up as scheduled on Saturday to "unpack".  What we ended up doing (Saturday, Sunday and Tuesday):

 

Unpacked 14 boxes

Went down to HCMC and picked him up on Saturday to bring him home...even though he was supposed to stay another 2 days.

Got his hospital bed installed in his new residence

Got his electric wheelchair delivered

Got his oxygen delivered

Took him grocery shopping

Took him to get prescriptions (a few times)

Got him a chair for the bathtub

Provided AND delivered furniture (he had ZERO furniture)  Not even a chair!!!

Talked to his Social Worker and the Apartment Complex Manager many times

Had his cable installed 2 times!

Took him to Target 4 times for supplies

Got him a TV

Got him a cd player

Put together many knock down cabinets that he wanted installed

Took him to the Doctor two times

Did laundry several times

Made his bed

 

I could go on and on (this isn't the complete list)  but it's been emotionally draining.....we really liked him........he had no one to help....and I feel good that we can now call him our friend.

 

Jeri Pischke
Owner
TENDER HEART TRANSITIONS INC.

www.TenderHeartTransitions.com

Tender Heart on November 07, 2008 | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

Senior Complexes and College Dorms

Many seniors have a hard time making the decision to move to senior housing... after all there are many services available to enable you to stay in your own home. What may be the most compelling reason to move may be the freedom and independence it can give. That may seem the opposite of what you would think, but I think of senior complexes as college dorms for seniors. There are support systems to provide help as needed, friends around to gather at the coffee shop, activities and programs available both onsite and offsite with arranged transportation...plus you don't have to worry about taking care of a house or cooking or medical needs. It doesn't mean giving up your car as long as you are able to drive but you don't HAVE to drive to take care of your daily needs.

Seniorsdr1sq_2What I see as perhaps the biggest benefit of senior housing is socialization. Often what happens when you stay in your house is your long-time friends and neighbors gradually leave, it becomes harder to get out so you don't maintain your other contacts and you become increasingly isolated. It can happen so gradually that you don't realize what is happening and it can become very lonely.

In a complex, you get your mobility back. Hallways become your streets and neighbors become your local family. You have people around to join you at the dinner table, at events, for afternoon coffee, for outings and just for chatting in the common areas.

I talked with a couple women at a local senior complex recently...they have been living there and loving it for 20 years...and they're still very active and busy every day! Just as in buying a home, the key is finding a complex with the right fit for you and your needs, interests and values.

Sharlene Hensrud on October 16, 2008 in Making the Decision | Permalink | Comments (1) | TrackBack (0)

Senior Fall Prevention

I just came across this article published by the National Institute on Aging, www.nia.nih.gov and I thought it was worth sharing.  I love the hints about making a home safe:

A simple fall can change your life. Just ask any of the thousands of older men and women who fall each year and break a bone (sometimes called fracture).

Getting older can bring lots of changes. Sight, hearing, muscle strength, coordination and reflexes aren’t what they once were. Balance can be affected by diabetes and heart disease, or by problems with your circulation, thyroid or nervous system. Some medicines can cause dizziness. Any of these things can make a fall more likely.

Then there’s osteoporosis—a disease that makes bones thin and likely to break easily. Osteoporosis is a major reason for broken bones in women past menopause. It also affects older men. When your bones are fragile even a minor fall can cause one or more bones to break. Although people with osteoporosis must be very careful to avoid falls, all of us need to take extra care as we get older.

A broken bone may not sound so terrible. After all, it will heal, right? But as we get older a break can be the start of more serious problems. The good news is that there are simple things you can do to help prevent most falls.

Take the Right Steps

Falls and accidents seldom "just happen." The more you take care of your overall health and well-being, the more likely you’ll be to lower your chances of falling. Here are a few hints:

  • Ask your doctor about a special test—called a bone mineral density test—that tells how strong your bones are. If need be, your doctor can prescribe new medications that will help make your bones stronger and harder to break.
  • Talk with your doctor and plan an exercise program that is right for you. Regular exercise helps keep you strong and improves muscle tone. It also helps keep your joints, tendons, and ligaments flexible. Mild weight-bearing exercise—such as walking, climbing stairs—may even slow bone loss from osteoporosis.
  • Have your vision and hearing tested often. Even small changes in sight and hearing can make you less stable. So, for example, if your doctor orders new eyeglasses, take time to get used to them, and always wear them when you should or, if you need a hearing aid, be sure it fits well.
  • Findout about the possible side effects of medicines you take. Some medicines might affect your coordination or balance. If so, ask your doctor or pharmacist what you can do to lessen your chance of falling.
  • Limit the amount of alcohol you drink. Even a small amount can affect your balance and reflexes.
  • Always stand up slowly after eating, lying down, or resting. Getting up too quickly can cause your blood pressure to drop, which can make you feel faint.
  • Don’t let your home get too cold or too hot...it can make you dizzy. In the summer—if your home is not air-conditioned—keep cool with an electric fan, drink lots of liquids, and limit exercise. In the winter, keep the nighttime temperature at 65° or warmer.
  • Use a cane, walking stick, or walker to help you feel steadier when you walk. This is very important when you’re walking in areas you don’t know well or in places where the walkways are uneven. And be very careful when walking on wet or icy surfaces. They can be very slippery! Try to have sand or salt spread on icy areas.
  • Wear rubber-soled, low-heeled shoes that fully support your feet. Wearing only socks or shoes with smooth soles on stairs or waxed floors can be unsafe.
  • Hold the handrails when you use the stairs. If you must carry something while you’re going up or down, hold it in one hand and use the handrail with the other.
  • Don’t take chances. Stay away from a freshly washed floor. And don’t stand on a chair or table to reach something that’s too high—use a "reach stick" instead. Reach sticks are special grabbing tools that you can buy at many hardware or most medical supply stores.
  • Find out about buying a home monitoring system service. Usually, you wear a button on a chain around your neck. If you fall or need emergency help, you just push the button to alert the service. Emergency staff is then sent to your home. You can find local "medical alarm" services in your yellow pages.

Most medical insurance companies and Medicare do not cover items like home monitoring systems and reach sticks. So be sure to ask about cost. You will probably have to pay for them yourself.

Make Your Home Safe

You can help prevent falls by making changes to unsafe areas in your home with these home safety tips.

In stairways, hallways, and pathways:

  • Make sure there is good lighting with light switches at the top and bottom of the stairs.
  • Keep areas where you walk tidy.
  • Check that all carpets are fixed firmly to the floor so they won’t slip. Put no-slip strips on tile and wooden floors. You can buy these strips at the hardware store.
  • Have handrails on both sides of all stairs—from top to bottom—and be sure they’re tightly fastened.

In bathrooms and powder rooms:

  • Mount grab bars near toilets and on both the inside and outside of your tub and shower.
  • Place non-skid mats, strips, or carpet on all surfaces that may get wet.
  • Keep night lights on.

In your bedroom:

  • Put night lights and light switches close to your bed.
  • Keep your telephone near your bed.

In other living areas:

  • Keep electric cords and telephone wires near walls and away from walking paths.
  • Tack down all carpets and area rugs firmly to the floor.
  • Arrange your furniture (especially low coffee tables) and other objects so they are not in your way when you walk.
  • Make sure your sofas and chairs are a good height for you, so that you can get into and out of them easily.

Source: National Institute on Aging, www.nia.nih.gov (Original title: Falls and Fractures)

Jeri Pischke
TENDER HEART TRANSITIONS INC.
www.tenderhearttransitions.com 

Tender Heart on October 03, 2008 in Senior Tips | Permalink | Comments (3) | TrackBack (0)

Listen to Seniors!!

While driving to a job last Thursday, I (ignorantly) asked my Husband why flags were flying at half-mast?  I glanced at the front page of the paper that morning and didn't see anything unusual.  I think I saw something about "Minnesota's Wind Power" I told him.

About 1 minute later, I realized that it was 9/11.......a date none of us will ever forget, but apparently I had!  I shamefully tell you, that there was a point in time where I wondered if the press would ever stop writing about it and reminding us about that terrible day.  Well, obviously, it worked, because I didn't see a big headline in the paper last Thursday (there wasn't one) and was just going about my day.

As we drove on, my Husband (Keith) and I talked about what we were doing that day and how we heard what had happened.  I know that a lot of Senior's remember the same things from the day John F. Kennedy was shot (I was 7 at the time and remember it too), but I think 9/11/2001 is "the" day that Baby Boomers will talk about in those terms.

I don't like to dwell on negatives, but it It was sobering to think that I had "forgotten" (even for a moment) that day in history.

Then I realized how many days in history my Parents (87 & 85) have seen!  Yes, BOTH of my Parents were Marines in World War II...so there are many stories told during our Sunday dinners!!  Funny, my Sister and I always wondered why they talk about the past so much.

But, now I know....and after my reaction on Thursday, I can see why Seniors want to talk about the past......and it was a reminder to me that I am going to make sure and listen closely!

Jeri Pischke
TENDER HEART TRANSITIONS INC.
www.tenderhearttransitions.com
tht@frontiernet.net

Tender Heart on September 13, 2008 in Miscellaneous | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

Family Dynamics

When we are called in to help a Senior, the call is often initiated by the Adult Children. 

In my own life, we are very fortunate to have my Parents around.  They just celebrated their 62nd Wedding Anniversary!!!  (try and find a card for that one!)   My Mom turns 87 next week and my Dad turns 85 next month.  We talk to them frequently and have them over for dinner with our whole family every Sunday.  It's a great time and it amazes me the things they have seen in their lifetime.

It's funny how life changes.  There is a lot of press regarding "The Sandwich Generation", defined by Wikipedia as:  "a generation of people who care for their aging parents while supporting their own children"

I often see Adult Children taking on the leadership role of a transition.  Sometimes, that role is planned and sometimes that role "just happens" due to an unforeseen event.  Working in the business of helping Seniors, I would like to share a little about my thoughts and experiences.

Anytime a Senior is transitioning (whether they're moving or simply downsizing) it can be very stressful.  There are typically a lot of people around "pushing" them to make a decision.  Since most of the Sandwich Generation are really busy, they usually push too.  It can be hard on everyone involved, but the one thing we should all remember, is....what we're sorting through is not just possessions.....it's someone's memories and life.

It really helps to set a time table that is agreed upon by the Senior and Family.  If everyone agrees to a plan up front, it's a lot easier to go through the entire process.  While sorting through items, if the Senior is having a hard time deciding whether to keep it, you can put the item off to the side and come back to it later......just don't let the "later" pile get too big!!

Since these possessions are often tied to fond memories, it does help to talk about the memories as you continue to sort and pack.  We know that (usually) the Senior can't keep everything, but we also suggest taking pictures as a way to keep the memory, but not the physical possession.

I think the thing I've learned the most is respect.....

It's easy for the Family and Senior to get frustrated, but it's much easier to keep reminding yourself that this is an important event in the Senior's life and they should be treated with dignity.

And I'll close with a quote I just read by Jason Love:

"The Elderly don't drive badly; they're just the only ones who take the time to do the speed limit"

Jeri Pischke
Tender Heart Transitions
www.tenderhearttransitions.com

Tender Heart on August 23, 2008 in Family Dynamics | Permalink | Comments (1) | TrackBack (0)

Researching Valuables Can Pay Off

While helping Families sort through their Parent's Possessions, I have seen many items considered (by the Family) to be of little or no value.  And then I see some Families who believe that every item is worth a lot of money.  It's important to remember, that all these possessions do have a value...whether it's sentimental or monetary. 

But today, I want to stress the importance of spending a little time on the Internet to do research.

While sorting, often times, since the Family has "grown up" with the possessions and have seen them for years, so they don't think there could be any worth.  Plus, during the stress of packing up everything in a home, people have a tendency to want to keep plowing through the clutter and throw a lot of it out.

Here's what we've found recently:

A very small print that was in a cardboard frame......value was approximately $1,200

Petrified rocks.....there were a lot and some were very valuable!

Old albums.........many people LOVE these and there can be real value here

A stamp collection.......there were many valuable stamps in there.....just had to go through and research

A coin collection.....when I saw it, they had it in baggies ready to cash in at the bank...worth a lot more to a collector

Then, I received an email from someone in the NASMM (National Association of Senior Move Managers) Organization that I belong too...

While sorting through an old trunk that was being thrown away (full of cobwebs and extremely dirty so the family was tossing), they found a First Edition Copy of "Uncle Tom's Cabin"...value could be $15,000!!

Whether you are selling, donating or keeping these possessions, you can see that it can be advantageous to spend a little time on this.  The Internet has been an incredible tool for this kind of research and typically, you can find values quite quickly.  Plus, using the Internet, you can often find people who can appraise the items as well.

Jeri Pischke

www.tenderhearttransitions.com 

Tender Heart on August 10, 2008 in Downsizing, Estate Sales, Packing, Moving, Miscellaneous | Permalink | Comments (1) | TrackBack (0)

Estate Sales With Ebenezer

Many times, when Seniors downsize, there are possessions that need to be sold.  This week, we contacted Ebenezer Hands and Hearts Estate and Moving Sales to work with one of our Clients. (www.ebenezerestatesales.org)   

This is an incredible, reputable and honest Non-Profit Organization.  When you hire Ebenezer, you are also making a difference in the lives of older adults in your community.  All fees paid in association with your sale are used to support resident-related projects within Ebenezer's many long-term care and senior housing facilities.

You can contact Ebenezer and they will do a free, no-obligation visit to your home.  We met Program Director, Andrew Akmnekains.  He was wonderful with our Client and understood their needs.  It turns out, they don't need a full Estate Sale.  Due to the small amount of possessions that need to be sold, Ebenezer is coming in, packing the items up, and including them in another sale they have.  It's a win-win for all!!.

Then, they bring in volunteers to clean and sort the possessions.  They work hard so when the sale day arrives, the professional presentation "wows" every customer.

Once the sale is over, they will pack up any unsold items and donate them for you

Andrew and his people know how to take the stress out of Estate Sales.  We were both so pleased to meet Andrew and would highly recommend Ebenezer's services!

Jeri Pischke & Cindy Thomes, Tender Heart Transitions - Email - Website

Tender Heart on June 28, 2008 in Downsizing, Estate Sales, Packing, Moving | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

How to Find a Reputable Moving Company

When we give seminars to Senior Citizen groups, one of the topics we address is how to find a reputable moving company.  Moving is stressful and you need to take precautions.  So how do you find a moving company that you can trust?

We often tell people NOT to use the Internet.  Call your Real Estate Agent, friends and use the phone book too.  Find 3 moving companies with offices in your area.  Do not hire a "moving broker".  Current consumer protection laws related to the movement of household goods only apply to Motor Carriers and NOT to household goods brokers.

Set up appointments for them to come to your house and do an in-home estimate in the order of your least favorite to your most favorite company.  If they won't come to your house, find another company.  Find out up front if they will be doing the move themselves, or if they will be subcontracting out the job.  If they won't be moving you, then move on. 

As each moving company gives you an estimate, keep the estimates out where the next company can easily see them. Ask questions.  Never sign a blank paper and always read and understand the document you sign.  Every moving company is required by law to provide you with "Your Rights and Responsibilities When You Move" booklet.  If you don't receive this, tell THEM to move on!

Get references.  Word of mouth is the best referral anyone in business can ask for!

The Better Business Bureau can be used as a guide too, but don't take a "satisfactory" rating at it's face value.  Call the BBB office and ask them about any complaints on file.

We also refer people to the following website:  www.movingscam.com  There is a lot of information and tips on this website that are helpful.

Tender Heart on June 21, 2008 in Downsizing, Estate Sales, Packing, Moving | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)